If I were to marry, I will have to marry someone who will be a good father.
Well of course this is at the risk of stating the obvious, but the traits of a good father cannot be overlooked. If the family is the wellspring of life; it is where all safety and security is found, and where character, if not abilities, is first formed, if it is the starting point of how a person turns out, and how that person in turn relates to and impacts everyone else around him, whether good or bad, and hence by extension, if getting married and having a family is to leave a legacy, then having a good father is all important.
This is related to God being our Father above, where Psalms says that when we become children of God, we inherit His goodness and kingdom.
"You, O Lord, are the portion of my inheritance and my cup;
You maintain my lot.
The lines have fallen to me in pleasant places;
Yes, I have a good inheritance" Psalms 16: 5-6
Yes, a father leaves his children an inheritance, both of a physical and material sort, and the other of a spiritual and emotional sort. Sadly, some inheritances are baggages.
I am not saying that the man or father has to be perfect, because nobody is. But a good father is one who is godly, humble, capable, and generous in spirit and in wealth. These are traits of a good inheritance, and that which equip the child with the tools to pursue joy, love and contentment in life, in spite of inevitable setbacks and disappointments.
I thought of this because I was chatting with Bunny, Manu's husband about his deceased parents. He was telling me that his parents died when he was 9 or 10 years old. But later on, in his life, he met strangers who want to help him because some time ago, his parents had gone out of their way to help them at their moments of need. He told himself if he could be like them, just a little bit, he would be happy. And I have benefitted a little from his generosity: staying at their place during this month and being at home with good company and good conversations. In a way, I have benefitted from his parents' generosity.
Well of course this is at the risk of stating the obvious, but the traits of a good father cannot be overlooked. If the family is the wellspring of life; it is where all safety and security is found, and where character, if not abilities, is first formed, if it is the starting point of how a person turns out, and how that person in turn relates to and impacts everyone else around him, whether good or bad, and hence by extension, if getting married and having a family is to leave a legacy, then having a good father is all important.
This is related to God being our Father above, where Psalms says that when we become children of God, we inherit His goodness and kingdom.
"You, O Lord, are the portion of my inheritance and my cup;
You maintain my lot.
The lines have fallen to me in pleasant places;
Yes, I have a good inheritance" Psalms 16: 5-6
Yes, a father leaves his children an inheritance, both of a physical and material sort, and the other of a spiritual and emotional sort. Sadly, some inheritances are baggages.
I am not saying that the man or father has to be perfect, because nobody is. But a good father is one who is godly, humble, capable, and generous in spirit and in wealth. These are traits of a good inheritance, and that which equip the child with the tools to pursue joy, love and contentment in life, in spite of inevitable setbacks and disappointments.
I thought of this because I was chatting with Bunny, Manu's husband about his deceased parents. He was telling me that his parents died when he was 9 or 10 years old. But later on, in his life, he met strangers who want to help him because some time ago, his parents had gone out of their way to help them at their moments of need. He told himself if he could be like them, just a little bit, he would be happy. And I have benefitted a little from his generosity: staying at their place during this month and being at home with good company and good conversations. In a way, I have benefitted from his parents' generosity.
posted by Candida at 7/21/2011 07:10:00 PM
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