Of Ropes and Life
What she said was poignant.
As Z was mulling over the complexities in her life situation (something which was brought about by her own intentional choice though probably no less deserving of sympathy) while not paying attention to our conversation over dinner, J suddenly said that while she usually espouse not thinking and fretting because it is not helping anyone, Z should, on the contrary, think.
The analogy she gave was as such: that some people say life is like a rope that gets entangled and knotted at some areas. Of course as it is with knots in ropes, we need to untangle them. Yet for some people, like J herself, whom she admits herself to be so 'far gone', the knot has grown so tight that she cannot unravel it; hopefully in time to come it will loosen on its own. If she were to think about it, she would go mad. That I agree. So J went on to say that Z should consider and think properly: that she, having such a good life now in with a good husband and family and maybe job prospects, should not make any knots and entanglements so tight that she cannot unravel them later on. In life one has to think about decisions and in my opinion, traps that we lay for ourselves that we cannot get out of.
If some call it conservative and cowardly and lacking in the 'carpe diem' spirit, I would say, that let no one make entanglements that they cannot loosen, and reap consequences that they would spend the rest of their lives making up for when better things-that which beget life, not death-can be done. After all, life itself is complicated and challenging enough on its own.
Perhaps over our simple meal of baked chicken wings and cucumber in a humble dwelling far away from our respective homelands amongst 3 women sharing confidences, this eloquent and passionate outburst from the otherwise quiet and hesitating J would be something to remember.
As Z was mulling over the complexities in her life situation (something which was brought about by her own intentional choice though probably no less deserving of sympathy) while not paying attention to our conversation over dinner, J suddenly said that while she usually espouse not thinking and fretting because it is not helping anyone, Z should, on the contrary, think.
The analogy she gave was as such: that some people say life is like a rope that gets entangled and knotted at some areas. Of course as it is with knots in ropes, we need to untangle them. Yet for some people, like J herself, whom she admits herself to be so 'far gone', the knot has grown so tight that she cannot unravel it; hopefully in time to come it will loosen on its own. If she were to think about it, she would go mad. That I agree. So J went on to say that Z should consider and think properly: that she, having such a good life now in with a good husband and family and maybe job prospects, should not make any knots and entanglements so tight that she cannot unravel them later on. In life one has to think about decisions and in my opinion, traps that we lay for ourselves that we cannot get out of.
If some call it conservative and cowardly and lacking in the 'carpe diem' spirit, I would say, that let no one make entanglements that they cannot loosen, and reap consequences that they would spend the rest of their lives making up for when better things-that which beget life, not death-can be done. After all, life itself is complicated and challenging enough on its own.
Perhaps over our simple meal of baked chicken wings and cucumber in a humble dwelling far away from our respective homelands amongst 3 women sharing confidences, this eloquent and passionate outburst from the otherwise quiet and hesitating J would be something to remember.
posted by Candida at 8/10/2011 02:21:00 AM
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